Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Thanks a lot society

 When you are growing up, you often set goals for your future. 
You are asked in school to make short term and long term goals for yourself. 
When I grow up I want to be ____. 
By age ___ I want to be married.
By age ___ I want to start a family.

 At a younger age you think you have it all figured out. You think that in a certain amount of time you will find your prince charming, snag the job of your dreams and live happily ever after.
Then reality happens and those "goals" don't exactly go as planned. 
Your dreams and goals begin to change.
You get a dose of reality and learn that things don't always go as planned but they always seem to have a way of working out. You go through a few heartbreaks until you find the one you will marry. You interview for jobs you want but do not get. You go from one job to another. Or go to work each day knowing this isn't what you want to "be" for the rest of your life. Then you realize that you haven't quite got it all figured out. 

Sometimes I wish I would get this big sign of what "it is" that I really want to do. 
Sure we all still have dreams and goals. 
Maybe they aren't the same as they were when we were younger but it's something we all want to achieve.
I am married, have no children and have a good job - and I am okay with that. There are things I wish would change, and eventually, they will. I know that there are some things we have to do to get where we want to be. I have learned that you don't always get what you want. That things are not always perfect... and I am perfectly okay with that. 
I may not know what my next step will be. My next career path or even the next town/city we will live in. I do not know when we will have children and expand our family of two. I may not know where my life is headed or if it will change but that is the way life goes, right?
 We often hope and dream for things that in reality will never happen. Thanks a lot society. Although we set these often unrealistic expectations for ourselves, it is those goals that push us to achieve things that otherwise we may never strive for. 
So accept where you are and what you have and keep setting goals to better yourself.


  1. Thanks for posting this. Amber! I've been dealing with similar struggles recently about figuring out my life and where I want it to go. There are things I want to do/ achieve and I have to accept the fact that I might need to take some risks/chances or even a step back in order to make that happen. I'm okay with that and just need to pull the trigger and commit! It's a little overwhelming. It's reassuring that other people feel the same way and that others also didn't have anything figured out as well.

    Have a great day! xoxo

  2. Ugh totally how I feel right now.. Long 6 year relationship was about to get married now I'm single and ready to mingle but there goes my "plan" or what have you.. Hard to get rid of the weird thoughts of having to accomplish things by certain ages.. It's just a stress from others doing it.. But I'm happy doing my own thing for now!

  3. I feel this way too a lot of the time!

  4. I feel this way constantly. It is so frustrating that growing up you are taught that you need to have a set timeline and goals for yourself that you will reach at certain ages. Unfortunately, those goals/times hardly ever work out!

  5. love this post, its a good reminder!! I am loving your blog and am so happy to have stumbled upon it! Hope you have a chance to swing by mine as well! Annnddd I am your newest follower, so I will be back!

    xo, Kelsey Belle


  6. Loved this post!! Thank you for being so honest :-)

  7. Totally relate to this post. I thought I had it all figured out as a little kid. After getting through with college I still didn't have a clue. Love your blog. It's always nice to see other young Arkansas bloggers. I am new to this whole thing but I am going to follow you and can't wait to see what all you have to say! :)



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